. DEFINITELY .

Searching for the right one is oftentimes what most people have been doing all their lives. How can I blame them? There’s an undefined rush in searching and searching and searching. In every new date comes a renewed hope that this person could be the one. For some, finding the right person comes easily. For others, searching becomes a painstaking process. They search hopefully only to get their hearts broken in the end. And I feel there is something amiss in this scenario. The searching just eats up most of the hopeless romantic’s time without knowing that he has already found what he has been searching for. It has been there all along. Waiting to be discovered, waiting to be felt. And this is even a sadder scenario. Some people search too much that they miss out on what could have been really right for them. They search too much that they miss out on the chance of becoming the right person for somebody. Yes, there is fun in searching. There is a high in every spark of hope of maybe finding the right one. But it’s more fun when you’re being with the right person. It’s a cliche, but I really believe in the old adage to just let love find you. Let fate do its work. That way, you won’t be overlooking a wonderful person that might just be the one. 

True, there are days when I feel there is something missing in my 'story'. There are days that could have been made better, days when we could have been more perfect for each other. I could have searched to find that missing piece. But I didn’t. Because I know that that missing piece can be filled one of these days. It’s a work in progress. I have stopped being too idealistic and eventually learned to love a moment at a time, a day at a time.

There’s  no time to waste. If you know you are with the right person already, be brave enough to stay. And save both your lives. 

When the time comes that you know you’re with the right person and be asked if s/he is already the one you want to spend your life with, I hope you will all have only one answer: DEFINITELY. No Maybe’s.

stayin' is harder

Every day, we are faced with minute life battles that fate requires us to face. Admit it, it’s not easy going through this life on our own. At certain points in our ironically mundane yet crazy lives, we are humbly on our knees begging the heavens to send us someone who will make us feel complete. Someone who will make us whole, someone with whom we could share half of life’s burdens with and someone whom we can spend forever with.


We all need a better half to be happily insane with. And when we find that person, things are no longer the same. Life suddenly takes a 360-degree turn. Priorities change, goals are re-aligned, decisions are influenced and dreams begin to consist of having a happy family.


Many people think that falling in love is the best feeling in the world. This is where (I guess) many people go wrong. It is staying in love that makes the best feeling in the world. Falling in love is easy. It is staying in love that requires a lot of effort. It is in staying in love despite imperfections, flaws and quirks that makes a relationship last. You fall in love because you like a lot of things about a person. You stay in love because you choose to. Love is not always a bed of roses. Relationships are tested by time, personalities, characters, differences, sweet times and bad times.


While destiny and fate would make up a good plot in any love story, it is a courageous choice that make up a good hero / heroine. Love is not all about random, cute and pretty things. It is not about taking your partner to a fancy dinner or showering her with gifts. Love is staying with your partner when things don’t go your way. It is holding your partner’s hands when the world begins crumbling down. It is hugging and kissing your partner when insecurities get in the way of the relationship. It is simply being at your partner’s side when harsh realities start sinking in and choosing to not let go.


I wouldn’t mind being constantly wooed by my partner. Hell, I’m the easiest person to please. I’m already happy with chocolates, sweet nothings or even just a cheap dinner date. But if the guy will choose to leave or abandon me when I’m at my most unlovable self, he can have somebody to give the chocolates to and spend dinner with. I don’t need to be showered with lavish gifts. I only need a guy who will choose to stay with me when things go rocky, a guy who would tell me I’m pretty even when there are pimples scattered all over my face, a guy who will love me at my worst state. In short, I need a real man. I’m sure you do, too. Because only a real man is capable of choosing to love you despite an ugly face, aura, mood, state of mind, situation and circumstance. And this is the only man who deserves your best self - a beautiful face, aura, mood, state of mind, situation and circumstance.


Out of the 6,000,000,000 people in the world, there is only one out there. If you haven’t met him / her yet, smile because you’re both gazing at the same sky. Promise me you won’t let go when your lives cross. Make the right choice. Hold on. Stay in love. Live a happy life together. Finding 1 out of the 6,000,000,000 people who gives meaning to your life and to your world is no easy task. So, please. Do yourself and the whole world a favor. Choose the right thing.